I have a fantasy about the kind of world where sexual violence is eradicated. Where women aren't prey. Where people care for their own sexual needs without becoming predatorial on dates.
I'm one of those statistics. I never thought it would happen to me. Dating changed dramatically after that. Only meet them in the light of day. No drinks on first dates. Meet in public places only.
May we create a safer world.
(Interestingly I also wrote about a similar topic this week, about women fielding unwelcome attention)
This is real. We don’t raise boys with respect for women anymore. We allow music and pop culture to raise them which means all they know is objectification and over-sexualization.
I think you also have to consider the warping impact of feeling like you’re simultaneously supposed to be on guard and sexually interested against the same person/risk. Those two networks- survival and arousal - aren’t natural partners. It’s a tough shift to make and you can see the vast relief on women’s faces when we’re interacting with a man that we perceive as “safe”… because then we are free to relax and let whatever other response (maybe arousal, maybe something more platonic) happens, happen.
Men are trash. Lets face it. When it comes how we treat other genders, we suck. And the more men realize that and start seeing what women have been experiencing since the dawn of patriarchy, the more things can change. The more men let go of their perceived master of the universe BS that patriarchy has them believe, the better.
My brother is in Med school, this week their studies are focusing on domestic violence and he really learned, not just by staring at statistics, how much male partners are a threat to females safety — especially when pregnant. It led to a long, thoughtful call between us. I’m grateful for people who are willing to do this type of reflection. Thank you! And I hope your four-legged son is well!
"Sweet Summer Child" took me out😂😂😂 But in all seriousness, thank you for writing THIS👏🏾👏🏾 It reminds me once again of the HORRIBLE story of the twins girls that were harassed and then assaulted with a knife by a man they rejected. One twin died from her injuries...19 YEARS OLD.As a woman, I am terrified every day of that happening to me or my daughter who travels alone to school.
It's unfortunate how few men acknowledge and understand this plight when sex crimes are shockingly common against women.
Thank you for sharing your experience and trying to educate others to be more decent and empathetic.
I have a fantasy about the kind of world where sexual violence is eradicated. Where women aren't prey. Where people care for their own sexual needs without becoming predatorial on dates.
I'm one of those statistics. I never thought it would happen to me. Dating changed dramatically after that. Only meet them in the light of day. No drinks on first dates. Meet in public places only.
May we create a safer world.
(Interestingly I also wrote about a similar topic this week, about women fielding unwelcome attention)
This is real. We don’t raise boys with respect for women anymore. We allow music and pop culture to raise them which means all they know is objectification and over-sexualization.
I think you also have to consider the warping impact of feeling like you’re simultaneously supposed to be on guard and sexually interested against the same person/risk. Those two networks- survival and arousal - aren’t natural partners. It’s a tough shift to make and you can see the vast relief on women’s faces when we’re interacting with a man that we perceive as “safe”… because then we are free to relax and let whatever other response (maybe arousal, maybe something more platonic) happens, happen.
Your article is based on an implication you make that 35% of dates end in rape which I don't think you mean to imply.
This needs to be talked about more, SO many men don't get it.
Men are trash. Lets face it. When it comes how we treat other genders, we suck. And the more men realize that and start seeing what women have been experiencing since the dawn of patriarchy, the more things can change. The more men let go of their perceived master of the universe BS that patriarchy has them believe, the better.
My brother is in Med school, this week their studies are focusing on domestic violence and he really learned, not just by staring at statistics, how much male partners are a threat to females safety — especially when pregnant. It led to a long, thoughtful call between us. I’m grateful for people who are willing to do this type of reflection. Thank you! And I hope your four-legged son is well!
"Sweet Summer Child" took me out😂😂😂 But in all seriousness, thank you for writing THIS👏🏾👏🏾 It reminds me once again of the HORRIBLE story of the twins girls that were harassed and then assaulted with a knife by a man they rejected. One twin died from her injuries...19 YEARS OLD.As a woman, I am terrified every day of that happening to me or my daughter who travels alone to school.